What do you really want?

Hello there

Today I caught myself out!

It was 3.30pm, I was on the road during a busy work day and I thought longingly of my cup of caffe latte.

Yep! I thought, no doubt about it – its time for afternoon tea!

As I moved into the cafe and got ready to make my order a strange thing happened.

I stoppped and breathed and dared ask myself the question:

‘ What do you really want?’

As I did this the waitress came to take my order and I bravely said

“Water please and give me a minute I need to work out what I want.”

Sometimes our lives are on such automoatic pilot that we have no idea what we are doing, what we want, what we like or what would make us happy. we are as the rats on the treadmill, running, running but to where?

I sipped the water slowly and felt its coolness slide down my throat, easing the heated tension in my oesophagus that I did not even know was there.

My breathing and pulse slowed, my muscles relaxed.

Now I was ready to ask me – what do you really want right now?

It wasn’t caffe latte or chocolate cake, in fact it wasn’t food at all.

What I really wanted was a hug and for someone to stop long enough to say to me – ‘hey kid – it’s ok!’

Nothing too sentimental, no need for in depth conversations and analysis or asking the reason why, I simply needed a hug.

When had I lasted asked for that I thought?

When we are children we demand hugs, kisses, affection, smiles and attention. We demand it and know we deserve to get it, but during the process of maturing and becoming an adult something changes, and if you are a mother you will know this better than most. Others take over, their needs seem of prime importance and ours get pushed further and further back until we are not even aware of our needs anymore.

Authenticity is about knowing when to have your needs met and when to give to others needs.

Other people’s needs I know how to meet  – mine I am obviously still working on.

But today was a breakthrough.

No more hiding my real needs behind psuedo needs or poor substitutes.

Having found out what I want – it’s time now to go and get it!

 

Till next time

May you have love, peace and lots of hugs in your life….

Melody

To Friends Passing….

Hello there!

Yesterday a friend of mine died.

I am sad at his passing from this life and feel the loss of not seeing and hearing his lust for life with every breath.

But more even than sadness and loss I feel extraodinary gratitude.

What a privilege it has been to see first hand the interaction of this man with life and those he loved.

Was he famous? No.

Was he marked to be a man of destiny or distinction? No not particularly.

Was he talented above and beyond the average man? No.

So what makes him special I hear you say?

He was a man who showed passion for living.

 

Passion for his career as a chef, passion for his garden and house, passion for his right to exercise political opinion, passion for his family and friends and those he thought deserving of compassion and attention.

And it is this depth of passion, the breadth of his engagement with life and the complexity of his personal strengths and flaws that make him what he was – a human being who I was blessed for a short time in my life to know.

Thank you Rene, you and the way you lived your life was an inspiration though you probably knew it not.

Surely this is all that is asked of us while we are here on earth?

That we live our lives to the full,

that we open ourselves to the opportunities to love

and that we inspire others to do the same?

 

Until next time

Peace and love

Melody